Blessing isn’t a switch you flip.
It’s a path you walk.
And when you’ve wandered off that path—when you’ve broken what you were supposed to steward—you can’t just demand it back.
You have to rebuild it. Step by step.
It starts with humility.
James 4:6 says God gives grace to the humble.
Which means the first prayer isn’t “God, fix this.” It’s “Lord, I need You. I can’t fix this on my own.”
You have to own that you’re not the hero of this story. You’re the one who broke it. And only God can restore what you’ve destroyed.
Then confession.
Admit where you’ve been wrong. To God first. Then to Julianna.
No excuses. No justifying. No “but you…”
Keep it simple. “I was wrong. I hurt you. I’m sorry.”
That’s it.
The longer you wait to say it, the harder it gets. And the more damage you do.
You can’t be right with God while you’re wrong with her.
1 Peter 3:7 says if you mistreat your wife, your prayers are hindered.
So ask her: “What would help you feel cared for right now?”
And then—this is the hard part—don’t argue her answer.
Just listen.
Obedience doesn’t start with the big moments. It starts with the small ones.
Deuteronomy 28 ties obedience to blessing.
Follow through on one thing today. A meal. A chore. A text. A prayer.
Prove to yourself—and to God—that you’re serious about walking this path.
Psalm 1 says the blessed man delights in God’s Word.
Even if it’s short. Even if you don’t feel it. Open the Bible daily.
Let truth anchor your steps. Because without it, you’ll drift back into the same patterns that got you here.
And when setbacks come—and they will—don’t see them as God’s absence.
John 15:2 says God prunes what He’s growing.
He’s not punishing you. He’s preparing you for something you can’t carry yet.
Blessing isn’t about getting back to where you were.
It’s about becoming who you need to be.
And that doesn’t happen overnight. It happens in the dailyness. The small steps. The humble yeses.
Pray humbly. Confess honestly. Take one obedient step. Reconcile where you can. Stay in the Word.
That’s the path.
And if you walk it—God meets you there.